Back At It Again…

If you judge people you have no time to love them.

β€” Mother Teresa

Hello, hello, hell-o! I’m back, I’m excited and I’m blogging again. This is my first post on this new blog. Yay! I’m picking up where I left off. I am ready to share, engage and enjoy. I’m just getting this blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

Peace Love & Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹

Work Place Etiquette…

Most mornings I enjoy listening to “The Rickey Smiley Morning Show” on my way to drop my boys to school and myself to work. I can always count on a good laugh from one of the members or from one his prank call segment. I can also get a good inspirational word or just something positive to think about.

This morning Rickey talked about “Work Place Etiquette “. Woo chile! That hit home with me. I mean some coworkers can be the coolest at first then turn out to be so hard up or just too much from the beginning. I’ve worked around a few in my years of being employed. It’s not good dealing with people who don’t know their boundaries.

I’ve been violated a time or two and it felt really bad. The first time was really over the top. I even went as far as trying to get the EEOC involved. My family wanted to come meet him when he’s coming out the building and fk him up (their words). I said no, but after realizing EEOC wasn’t going to help me it would’ve been a relief to see them hurt him. However, the way my favor and faith is set up, I know that would’ve set me back spiritually. Also every has to answer for their wrong doings. So because of this, I declined their offer. Sad thing is he didn’t really get what the big deal was and why I was upset. He was an attorney who had obviously gotten away with doing this to other women so to him it was okay.

The other violation came from a coworker I was cool with. However, some people you give an inch they want the mile. Here I am oneday out getting breakfast in a small restaurant near the work place. I was with a female coworker at the time. The violator just walks over greets us and next thing I know he plants a kiss on my jaw. Eeeu! WTF…😫

I know I’m not the only one. I’ve worked around women sleeping with attorneys to get ahead, women sleeping with them because they like them. Cheating men just being cheating men. What makes this all bad is the fact that the men be married men. Yes, married. I know even worse, right. I refuse to ever work around that kind of dysfunction ever again. I also refuse to wait on help from EEOC if anything like this or close to this happens again.

No woman or man deserves to be touch inappropriately or treated inappropriately. We all deserve respect in the work place and outside the work place. We must always be respectful to others and be sure to not over step boundaries.

A work environment should be treated as such. It shouldn’t be treated like a club. Work is not the place to go to hit on coworkers. Nor is it the place to go to give out sensual compliments to men or women we have an interest in. If you happen to be interested in someone at work find a way to talk to them outside the office. That’s much better than being in the office.

Keep the work environment respectful, fun and work related. There is a such thing as work place etiquette. Mind focused, eyes on your work and respect to your coworkers. That’s it! Don’t loose your job or family for someone who is just temporary to you. Also don’t stick around in toxic environments it only makes you frustrated and uninterested in being there.

You deserve to be treated with respect. Don’t allow anything less. Happy Wednesday y’all.

Peace Love and Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹

Back to School Vibes…πŸ“šπŸ«

Today I watched my 16 year old get up anxious for his first day back to school. He’s in 11 grade and he’s an awesome student. He’s been in advance classes since his 6th grade year. He excels in his studies and he does so without me having to be on him about it. Except last year he went thru a falling phase for half a semester before getting back on track. After having his favorite things taken away from him because his mom doesn’t play the radio, he got his shxt together real quick.πŸ’πŸ½β€β™€οΈ

Anywho, I had the pleasure of snapping a few pics of him because he refused to pose as he dislikes taking photos. I won’t upload any but I’ve looked at them a few times already.

Last month I had the pleasure of accompanying my 2nd and 6th grader to their classes on their first day. I totally forgot to snap a few pics of them and they would have posed away for their pics. They love the camera so it’s easy getting pics of them. They were excited. They attend the same school making it easier for me. Two schools instead of three. They love their new teachers and they’re currently super excited about the year ahead.

My niece went back today too. She’s a 10th grader this year. I sent her a new school year text wishing her an awesome year. Saturday she was deciding on what color to dye her hair tips. Gosh, I wish that was my biggest issue.πŸ˜„ Anywho.

Overall many of us have spent the past weeks prepping for our kids to return to school prepared. We’ve watched them stand minutes trying to decide on which shoes to buy in Footlocker. We’ve walked along side them as they shop for new outfits to drip in.😝 Then there’s haircuts, new ear piercings, dental and doctors visit to get to as well. I swear I wasn’t this spoiled during back to school time. However, I’m grateful they can be.

Right now, I’m mufkn tied!😫 This mom of 5 with 4 at home is in need of a 3 day break. I need sleep, foot rubs, back rubs and my money back I spent on back to schoolπŸ˜† J/k I’m good actually. That would be nice though. πŸ€”

This post is to wish all the kiddos from elementary to high school a wonderful year filled with good grades, new experiences, good communication between them and their teachers as well as good laughs with old and new friends.

I also wanted to tell all parents sending off their kids that you’re so awesome. Because of you, your kid or kids can go to school prepared and ready to learn. Please pat yourselves on the back for all you do year to year and day to day with your kids. We work so hard to give them a great life and in case no ones told you. You fkn rock. You’re awesome and selfless. They are because you are.

To my Educators, thank you for taking you time with our kids. Thank you for pouring into them. Thank you for your patience with them all year long. You are greatly appreciated. I hope you’re year is a great one.

Happy 2019 – 2020 school year. Wishing you all a very blessed, safe, knowledge filled year.

Peace Love & Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹

Credit Savvy

Credit…Nowadays everyone, everywhere is a credit consultant, credit guru, or just overall pushing the benefits of having good credit.

Having good credit has personally helped me in more ways then one. I didn’t grow up knowing the benefits of having good credit. So like many I took my credit for granted in my younger years. Honestly I’ve had good credit now for only about 5 years now. Before that I was chilling in the low 500s across all three bureaus.

Credit has benefited me by lowering interest rates on my car purchases. This has kept me from over paying for vehicles which means lower monthly payments. Good credit has allowed me to be approved for credit cards. I have a total of 4 credit cards, each offering either travel benefits or everyday cash back rewards.

Being credit savvy has also given me a bit of financial pride knowing that I’m doing as I’m suppose to. I’m adulting like an adult should πŸ˜† Last but definitely not least doing right by my credit cards, paying my bills on time monthly has helped to grow my credit scores. I’m very close to perfect credit that I can taste it.

It feels great getting those Credit Karma and Experian notifications about how my hard working is paying off. However, I personally don’t think it’s hard work like the emails say. I consider it smart work. It was hard having bad credit paying double for things I purchased and never getting approved for anything feeling bad or unworthy credit wise. πŸ‘πŸ½ Not πŸ‘πŸ½ any πŸ‘πŸ½ more. Okuuur!

I decided to talk about credit today because I know it’s a struggle for many. I personally did my own credit research and fixed my own credit. I refused to pay anyone. However everyone isn’t able or willing so that’s when paying a knowledgeable credit advisor to help you. It’s worth it. I also purchased the Luxurious Credit book to help me but I’d already known most of the information from doing my own research. Follow her on Instagram at luxurious credit. She’s dope honest and a real business out here helping so many people build credit and become credit consultants. She’s the truth!

Mindset is everything when making better decisions for yourself. Fix you credit, change your life. I promise! Cheers to the freakin weekend. πŸ˜‰

Peace Love & Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹


Last week I had a life or death kind of situation that took place with a close loved one. It was so scary not knowing if this person that I love so deep would live or die. Hell once I got the word of what was going on I didn’t know what to think.

Getting a call that your loved one has passed out sends all types of thoughts through your mind. My first thought was “Please Father spare this life” followed by OMG pleaseeeeeee don’t let this person be dead. All while I’m driving to them like a bat out of hell, crying and praying.

What I know for sure is that the Most High was guiding me and moving thru me. I am not a bat out of hell type of driver but for my loved ones I will put the pedal to the metal. I made it and yes, my loved one was alive. Out of sorts but alive still.

Fast forward a week later to them being discharged. The doctor asked them their plan. I was glad to know that as scary and serious the situation was. It had a positive effect not just on the person facing the problem. It effected me in a way that made me realize that I too must change some things.

This scare was health related. This person was abusing the way they eat and didn’t have no exercise regimen in place. Currently this person is still regaining their strength and getting themselves together. Looking and listening to them I know that they’ve made a mental choice to change. They’ve made a change to be more healthy. That said eating better being mindful of how your food is prepared is a serious thing. Salts, added sugars, fats etc is killing us on a daily. Anything done excessively is too much. Moderation is always key.

Today I just want to be grateful that this happened. I mean it really change our mindset. If not for this scary incident nothing would have changed. No time soon at least. Lawd knows change is necessary and when it’s needed the Most High has a way of throwing you in uncomfortable and scary situations to get you and those around you to level the fk up.

Today I’m making healthier food prep choices most days. I’m hitting my yoga mat for my body stretches a few times a week. I’m even walking for at least 20 minutes on Saturday and Sunday as that’s the only days I have time to walk a track. I’ve even started doing a few (core) exercises in my living room a few times a week for about 20 minutes.

I enjoy learning from other people’s mistakes. That way I can bypass the bad they’ve experienced. The thing I took from this scary situation is what I already knew.

Healthier choices in all areas of your life will only make your everyday living better. The Most High is always in control. Healthier food choices equals a healthier body. Healthy bodies equal a healthy mindset. Let’s vibrate high everyday.

Make healthy choices in all areas of your life. Not just health wise but mentally choose healthier thoughts, make healthier financial decisions, adopt a healthy spiritual practice and choose to be physically fit. I’m not talking abs of steel or big muscles. I just mean make sure your body is in tuned physical with some light to extensive form of exercise. Keep your emotions in tact.

Overall do better in your day to day. Choose life!

Peace Love & Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹

Comparison #thejoythief

Comparison. In the world we live in today with social media and so many outlets that allow each of us to share pieces of our lives. Comparison is at an all time high.

I saw on the news a few days ago how Instagram in other countries has made it where only the page owner can see how many likes each post gets. Why? They said so many people are comparing themselves to others and it’s making them feel less about themselves and where they are in their own walk in life. Not good I tell you.

See, what we see on social media does not determine one’s happiness. It’s only giving the viewer and edited picture, post or video of what that person wants us to see. Most often than not people only share the good, the highs. Not too many people are showing you the arguments with there significant other that was bad, they’re not showing the bad doctors results, they’re not showing the kids failing in school or the bills that are overdue nor will they show the negative bank accounts or the bad credit scores.

Hell as much as people love to show off nobody’s posting their bank accounts to show those millions they’re claiming. Even if they did it doesn’t determine if they’re happy. Personally, I feel that happiness should be all of our goal over many other things. Stability, good health and love to me are what matters most. However many don’t feel the same.

Many people don’t realize that comparison is a joy thief. It sucks life out of you, it kills your spirit because it have you feeling lower because you aren’t living the way your favorite IG person is living. People are killing themselves or just going into depression over other people’s likes. That’s not it chief. We must wake up. We’ve got to be responsible for our own happiness. We can’t wait for riches, or vacations or a slim waist or that proposal to feel good about ourselves. No.

Close that social media app. Pray, meditate and look within. I promise you’ll find that you’re just as lit as your favorite IG crave. You’ll realize the life you’re living is worth your happiness and whatever you feel you’re lacking you can have if you get out of your feelings and work towards it. Plus you don’t know how somebody got what they have so don’t compare. Most of all though you’re comparing yourself to someone who often times don’t even love themselves. The surface is full of lies. You have to really know people to know that under that surface is layers of unhappiness.

The only person you should be comparing yourself to is the person staring back at you in the mirror. Everyday we must strive to be better than we were yesterday. That’s it. I promise once you begin doing that, you’ll realize you been cheating yourself all along thinking you wanted your life to be like someone else’s life.

We’re all blessed with our own unique qualities and abilities. Don’t miss out on utilizing them being your best self thinking someone else’s best or less than best self would suit you better.

I hope your Monday is as Marvelous as you are.πŸ˜‰

Peace Love & Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹

Love 101 – #therealtheraw

I am unsure who this message is written by. I got it from my cousins Facebook page. She shared this and it resonated so deep that I too had to share. Please read it in its entirety. Thank you in advance…

For couples so eager to call it quits after the infatuation wears off, to throw in the towel on your relationship because everything isn’t β€œperfect” . . . here is some food for thought.

Lifelong commitment is not what most people think it is. It’s not waking up every morning to make breakfast and eat together. It’s not cuddling in bed until both of you fall asleep. It’s not a clean home, filled with laughter and love making every day. It’s someone who steals all the covers, and snores, it’s slammed doors and a few harsh words at times. It’s stubbornly disagreeing and giving each other the silent treatment until your hearts heal, and then offering forgiveness. It’s coming home to the same person every day that you know loves and cares about you in spite of, and because of, who you are. It’s laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It’s about dirty laundry and unmade beds. It’s about helping each other with the hard work of life. It’s about swallowing the nagging words instead of saying them out loud. It’s about eating the easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at a late hour because you both had a crazy day. It’s when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lays down with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay. And you believe them! It’s about still loving someone, even though sometimes they make you absolutely insane. Loving someone isn’t always easy, sometimes it’s hard. But it is amazing and comforting and one of the best things you will ever experience.

If you are blessed to have a wonderful imperfectly perfect partner in your life, then please have patience with them and know that relationships don’t come with a rule book. We are all just winging it with the one who makes our soul smile. That alone is worth the necessary work that Love 101 #therealtheraw requires. Choose Love…

Peace Love & Light

πŸ’• A. Ross πŸ’‹

It’s Always Us – 8 years later still doing life together…🀞🏽
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